A Letter to My Dad

Happy Fathers Day!

[Happy Fathers Day]

June 15, 1997 - Fathers Day

Dear Dad,

Happy Fathers Day.  I thought I should tell you some things that

other people know but I may not have ever told you.  First of all 

you are my hero.  You have always been my hero since I was a 

little boy.  I'm sorry if I don't always treat you with the respect that

a hero should have (not to mention a Dad!).  I'm going to work on

that real hard in the future.

Secondly I am very grateful for all the opportunities you have given

me over the years, and the financial help, etc.  Again I haven't always 

acted like this was the case and it probably has something to do with

pride or ego.  I am working on this, too, and I'm sorry I haven't 

been more forthcoming with thanks in the past.  I think a part of it

has to do with the tremendous self-esteem you imparted to your kids.

We just can't seem to take "No" for an answer sometimes and think 

we always deserve the best.  But sometimes I think I am too blind to 

see that "the best" is right under my nose and not on "the other side 

of the fence".  

For the last couple of months I have been reading about the lives of 

Saints and from the Bible to my boys every night.  I thought it would 

be good for them, but it has also really opened my eyes, melted my 

heart, and changed my attitudes about my life and how you fit into it.  

I hope you don't mind if I quote a few things here to try to convey a 

sense of my new attitudes that I hope to be bringing to work and my 

life.  I'm not saying that I'm perfect or saintly or anything, but that in 

the future I am going to be trying a lot harder to be more accepting 

and less demanding.

.......whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God.  

                                                      1 Corinthians 10:31

One cannot justify unjust anger, anger plunges a man to his downfall. 

                                                              Sirach 1:19

Honor your Father and your Mother, that you may have a long life.......  

                                                             Exodus 20:12

.......he who acts hastily, blunders........the foolish son is ruin to his 

father......Chastise your son, for in this there is hope.......if you rebuke

an intelligent man, he gains knowledge.......He who mistreats his Father..

..is a worthless and disgraceful son.     

                                             Proverbs 19:2,13, 18, 25, 26

Better is an open rebuke than a love that remains hidden.   

                                                            Proverbs 27:5

"It is not enough for obedience to do what is commanded.  It must be

done without debate, and must be looked upon as the best and most

perfect thing possible, though it may seem and may even be the contrary.  

                                                        - St. Philip Neri

If you are ever conscious of impulses, thoughts, and judgements opposed

to obedience, though apparently good and holy, do not admit them on any

account, but reject them promptly, as you would thoughts against chastity

or faith.  

                                                      - St. John Climacus

Humility is the mother of many virtues.  From it spring obedience, holy

fear, reverence, patience, modesty, mildness, and peace; for, whoever 

is humble easily obeys all, fears to offend any, maintains peace with all, 

shows himself affable to all, is submissive to all, does not offend or 

displease any, and does not feel the insults which may be inflicted upon 

him.  He lives happy and contented, and in great peace. 

                                                 - St Thomas of Villanova

"Resist your impatience...practicing, not only with reason, but even against

reason, holy courtesy and sweetness to all, but especially to those who 

weary you the most".  

                                                   - St. Francis de Sales

A truly obedient man does not discriminate between one thing and another,

or desire one employment more than another, since his only aim is to 

execute faithfully whatever may be assigned to him.  

                                                            - St. Bernard

A little drop of simple obedience is worth a million times more than a whole 

vase full of the choicest contemplations.  

                                            - St. Mary Magdalen de' Pazzi

Obedience is, without a doubt, more meritorious than any austerity.  And 

what greater austerity can be thought of than that of keeping one's will 

constantly submissive and obedient?  

                                               - St. Catherine of Bologna

To pick up a straw from the ground through obedience is more meritorious 

than to preach, to fast, to use the discipline to blood, and to make long 

prayers, of one's own will.  

                                                - St. Alphonsus Rodriguez

One great way of preserving a constant peace and tranquility of heart is to 

receive all things as coming from the hands of God, whatever they may be, 

and in whatever way they may come. 

                                                          - St. Dorotheus

Beware of becoming vexed or impatient at the faults of others; for it 

would be folly when you see a man falling into a ditch, to throw yourself 

into another to no purpose.  

                                                        - St. Bonaventure

When you have to make arrangements, settle quarrels, or win others to your 

views, take care to be as mild as possible.  You will accomplish more, and 

conquer more readily, by yielding and humbling yourself, than by harshness 

and disputation.  Who does not know that more flies are caught with an 

ounce of honey than with a hundred barrels of vinegar?  

                                                    - St Francis de Sales

In this life there is no Purgatory, but either Paradise or Hell.  He who bears 

tribulations with patience, has Paradise; he who does not, Hell.  

                                                        - St. Philip Neri

One "Thanks be to God", or one "Blessed be God", in adversity, is worth 

more than a thousand thanksgivings in prosperity.  

                                                     - Father M. d' Avila

The greatest gift one can receive from God in this world is wisdom, power, 

and will to conquer himself, by denying self-will.  

                                                  - St. Francis of Assisi

One day of humble self-knowledge is a greater grace from the Lord, although 

it may have cost us many afflictions and trials, than many days of prayer.  

                                                              - St Teresa

I have turned forward and backward and on every side, and what conclusion 

have I reached?  I have considered all methods of governing, and even tried 

them, and I have finally seen that the best is that which is amiable, sincere, 

humble, and patient.  

                                            - St. Jane Frances de Chantal

The greatest fault among those who have a good will is that they wish to be 

something that they cannot be.  They conceive desires to do great things for 

which, perhaps, no opportunity may ever come to them, and meantime 

neglect the small which the Lord puts into their hands.  There are a thousand 

little acts of virtue, such as bearing with the importunities and imperfections 

of our neighbors, not resenting an unpleasant word or a trifling injury, 

restraining an emotion of anger, mortifying some little affection, some ill-

regulated desire to speak or to listen, excusing an indiscretion, or yielding 

to another in trifles.  These are things to be done by all; why not practice 

them?  The occasions for great pains come rarely, but of little gains many can 

be made each day; and by managing these little gains with judgement, there are 
some who grow rich.  Oh, how holy nd rich in merits we should make ourselves, 
if we but knew how to profit by the opportunities which our vocation supplies 
us with.  

                                                      - St. Francis de Sales

Well, Dad, I could keep going here, but I think you can get the idea by now 

of where I hope to be going in the future with my attitude.  Please don't 

hesitate to let me know if I am ever out of line in the days to come.  Like it 

says in Proverbs "A wise son makes his father glad.....but he who hates 

reproof is stupid".  I would like to think I am not stupid, and getting wiser 

every day, with your guidance and help.

Your loving son,


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